A “love button 11” profile

My self-summary       

 There comes a time in every woman’s life when Mother Nature stands behind us and wraps her arms around our shoulders, whispering
“It’s time. You can stop growing up, stop growing older and start growing wiser and wilder. There are adventures still waiting on you and you will enjoy them with the vision of wisdom and the companionship of hindsight. It’s time to stop the madness of comparison and the ridicule of schedule and conformity and start experiencing the joys that a life, free of containment and guilt, can bring.”
Mother Nature shook me then and reminded me that I’ve done my bit. I’ve given enough, cared enough, conformed enough. I’ve bought the book, as it were, and worn the t-shirt. And she reminded me that it was time to stop caring what other people think of me and instead care about what I think of me!
‘It’s time’ she said “to write the ending, or new beginning, of my own story.”
So here I am, looking for a big boy with a pen!

What I’m doing with my life

I make the broken look beautiful and I wear my life wounds like a majestic pair of wings, I am a delicate little flower but made so strong that storms don’t phase me. I’m a woman who know how to be happy even when I’m sad. And that’s important.

I’m really good at:

  • Being in love with my life, every goddam minute of it. It’s my trail and I intend to blaze it and blaze it good.
  • Being in love with myself. I think of how I’d like to be loved and make it happen for myself.
  • Being in love with a partner. I’m really ready to love someone like there is no tomorrow and to show it all.
  • Being in love with my home. Never mind the things I don’t like about it, I’m pouring some sparkle on what I have and it will make all the difference.
  • Being in love with my family. None of us are perfect but they are my blood and my history, and I need them in my life.
  • Being in love with my job. Actually I hate it but it’s time to flip that and look at all the positives and be thankful I have what I have. If I can’t, then I’m going to change it, life’s too short.
  • Being in love with being in love. I am about creating a life full of friendships and sloppy kisses and squashy hugs. It’s food for the soul.

My favourite saying
I’m not needy, I’m wanty

Six things I could never do without

Im not normal. My life is too short to blend and fade into the background. To compromise and squeeze into boxes that weren’t made for me and don’t fit me. To thrash out all my quirks and unique qualities and smooth down my edges until I’m bland and acceptable.

I spend a lot of time thinking about

Life was made to be stretched and evolved not to smother and oppress. There is no ceiling to the happiness you can feel and no end to the limits you can reach. Burn brightly, sparkle fiercely, live loudly. Most of all be you. You are not only enough, you are a whole new level of enough. You are you and no one is quite like you.


You should message me if

  • You play well, you are intelligent, well balanced, dedicated to growing, employed.
  • You want to lend me your pen.

Eharmony – totally hopeless

Hi there – I find some of these questions a bit limiting so I am ignoring convention and heading down a new path with my answers.  I’d appreciate it if you’d read all my info because eharmony has said we are a match – I’d be interested to know what you think.

Firstly I am a lot left of centre – I have a few quirks that make me a rather interesting person.

I ride a motorcycle and have done since I was a teen.  I use to be hard-core but now I’m more a fair weather rider.  I also love my push bike and enjoy getting around in this fashion.

I practice karate and train three to four times a week.  No I am not a black belt.  I love the discipline, the technical skills, the sparing and being in a team without being in a team, (all the camaraderie of a team with the benefit of no one relying on you).

I use to row – up at 5 am four mornings a week for 10 years – but being 162cm’s I was just too short to get anywhere with it – so that went by the wayside.

The only sport I watch is UFC – just love a bit of cage fighting and maybe rugby but I couldn’t care less about AFL, cricket, golf, tennis, motorsports, basketball etc.

I also love camping in my caravan and getting away for the weekend into the bush or the beach.  I am an avid snorkeler.

So now you must be thinking I’m some kind of uncultured ruffian – but I am a dichotomy.  I LOVE and attend theatre, ballet, opera, classical music, and contemporary dance.  Last year I saw over 50 performances.  Gallery openings, flower and garden shows, home expos, fine dining– all take my fancy.  I love topical gardens and roses, design and interior decorating.

When I travel I like to go local – travel on the local bus, stay in the local accommodation, live in the local way – I have had sensational travel experiences -living in a Zanzibarian village, a bungalow in Vanuatu, backpacking Europe, home staying in Cuba.  Sure I like gorgeous hotels but I struggle to justify the expense – why travel overseas to stay in a resort full of tourists – better to stay home and get a facial, I say.

I’m educated, seriously intelligent, hilarious and witty.  My emotional intelligence is well developed and I am comfortable in my skin.  I think I’m pretty well put together and certainly worth taking the risk on a few emails, phone conversations and dates.  I am not a psycho and I am not needy.

In general I am a very positive person and my friends say I am supremely resourceful and resilient. Like most people I have stared down the long corridor of depression driven by the sadness of divorce, the struggle with cancer (11 years free) and the grief of death and I have clawed my way back to the light one day at a time without relying on drugs.  I am like a peach – delicious with a tough centre.

My philosophy about eharmony is that everyone is here with the best of intentions and should be treated respectfully.  To that end, if my profile is interesting to you and you get a sense of connection then I’d love you to send me an email – what have you got to loose except the opportunity to meet a stellar woman.

Soft Places

Plenty of fish profile 2017

In my books, intelligent, articulate, fit nice guys always win. If you want to know about my Soft places read on.
I really enjoy life. I Love being a woman, I love how my hips swing when I walk, how my little layer of famine protection hides muscle, how my jelly shakes and wiggles, how bone tired I feel when I finish training. How good it feels to climb into bed and how delicious it is falling asleep.
I Love summer heat although the sun and I are a challenge together. The Suns long kiss a little too much for my tender skin. Winter is also a challenge best solved by cuddling. Sometimes I think I can never be cuddled enough.

I am content to be a dichotomy – wild and moral, conservative and free, trusting and cautious, energized and lazy.
The only games I play are card games.

I find delight in simple things, slow close dancing, tender gentle kissing, beautiful flowers and exquisite perfume, waves crashing on the shore, sitting by a river, trees, Saturday mornings.
I love beauty in all things – from a well crafted piece of furniture to the lines of sailing boat, from a handcrafted basket to Japanese pottery. From the curve of a mans muscles to the tip of his toes.

My world is full of music

I love to exercise and workout, love getting sweaty, Love pushing my body just that little bit harder, just a little bit more, just to see what I can take.
I Love my femininity and I love men who RESPECT me for all my femaleness. Essentially I love the other half of what makes me a complete woman – a man.

I love a man who prioritize time together and is looking to build and cultivate a friendship, a date mate and a love interest. Seriously who doesn’t love intimacy and delicious sensuality. It surprises me that people rush the discovery of the lush stuff. I have so many erogenous zones that don’t live between my legs. I am a veritable playground (aren’t we all) and it’s in being able to discover the keys to vulnerability and intimacy that make for the most wonderful of times.

I desire good company and someone who knows how to be at home when welcomed in. My boundaries change with intimacy.

And since you read this far- some more things you should know.
I’m easy-going, kind, straight to the point
Looking for my Mr Right
I work hard and I push life to the limits.
Easily entertained – like a good story, an interesting adventure, a thoughtful conversation and silence as well.
I have a great sense of what’s truly funny.
I like people who do what they say they will, when they say they will.
I keep my promises
I make time
I honour commitment
I’m loyal
I will stand by you
I will hold your hand.

Oh and this
My flirtatious sensual nature shouldn’t be misconstrued for bed jumping fun. I’m a longer term prospect. Be fun to date, gentle with your approach, considerate of my time, respectful of the relationship building process and I will reward you with passionate, committed, honest, long term joy.
I’ve always known – right to the core of my being, that my preference is for men, in particularly fit active handsome men. I’ve known since I was a child, a feisty, red headed, independent, adventurous wild thing; that the power to be vulnerable resides in the arms of a man. An intelligent, caring, considerate Man.

Conversation Starters (i.e. what you’d like to do on a first date…)

Meeting somewhere comfortable and quiet.
Somewhere in the city on a Friday night
Somewhere in the southeast on a weekend
Cafes for brunch or lunch
Restaurants for dinner
A Classy Bar after work
A dance venue
The Foyer of a Theatre
Walk along the beach






His message was crude and vulgar, straight to the point. “Do you wanna fuck?” – I wonder how successful that approach is for him, how often he actually lands a fish and succeeds with his four word courtation….delete.

“do you like younger men”- oh god how old is this one – 28. What is a 28 year old male wanting with a 50 year old woman, a mother? Sigh….delete.

“You have the most interesting profile I’ve read”….mmmmm – check pic, check age, read profile – ok he gets my attention.  Four messages in ‘wanna fuck?”……..Actually mate no – you’re a bogan….sigh delete.

I wanna lick your pussie, you’re hot mama, sexy mama, sexy lady, sexy sexy sexy””…….delete, delete, delete, delete, delete.

“We have lots in common” says the short fat hairy truck-driving smoking drinking biker from Hoppers Crossing… My my my – who would have thought he liked classical music, theatre and fine dining…….” fancy restaurant  – La Porcetta – no thanks”

We meet in a Bar by the Bay – it’s a beautiful night – he’s running late – (sigh) – he’s sorry, traffic, family, work.  Handsome yes but I spend the night fighting his hands…good god man get some self control.

We meet in a Bar in the City – it’s a beautiful night – he’s running late – (sigh) – he’s sorry, traffic, family, work, his phone rings all night long.

We meet for Brunch – it’s a beautiful morning – he’s running late – (sigh) – he’s sorry, traffic, family, hangover, he shorter than his profile outline and his pic weren’t current…..would I like to sit in a pub for the afternoon…….mate I don’t drink so no….can I drop him off at the pub????……sure!!!!

We meet for dinner – it’s a beautiful night – he’s running late – (sigh) – he was having a ciggie outside.   His addiction so strong that  I smell him enter the restaurant.

Can we meet at my place………..  “why a public venue”  he asks….don’t I trust him????…He wants to stick his tongue……. Where? – oh my god! …No that doesn’t turn me on.

We meet for coffee – he’s waiting for me (nice)……..its really pleasant, he’s pleasant, he texts later saying hello and if I’d like, he’d like to catch up again!

It comes naturally to him – he holds my hand when we walk along the street, he opens the door for me, his kiss is gentle and his hands respectful.

We eat fish and chips on the beach one hot December night and tell our glory day stories. This man, this man likes women, he really likes women……weeks in and we sleep together – its really nice, he says it nice, he says he wants to do that again……. and then bang he ghosts me…….I never hear from him again.

When I wake in my empty bed, my dream of love and desire still vivid, I wonder if my man exists. OK cupid!   Taking every day as an opportunity to be had.